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True Love or Counterfeit?

May 26, 2008 on 5:59 pm | In True Love Versus Counterfeit Love | No Comments

True Love versus Counterfeit Love

By

Marion S. Simpson

 

Have you ever wondered if you are in a truly loving relationship or if it is just a sham? One way you can know for sure if you are truly loved unconditionally is if the other partner in the relationship loves you as you are. They see the true you with all of your faults and foibles and still think you are an amazing human being that they are blessed to have in their life.

 

A way you can know for sure that the love is counterfeit and therefore the relationship built on a lie is if the partner places conditions on his/her love for example if they tell you that you must earn a specific amount of money, or work at a job that you have told them is draining you of life. Someone who truly loves you will never ask you to be less than you were created to be. Love encourages others to find fulfillment in life. It is not about chasing money of which even Donald Trump doesn’t believe he has enough of, it is about supporting dreams to change and improve the world, one person and one situation at a time.

 

Love is there in sickness and in health. If your health is failing and your partner leaves that is not love that is abandonment. In richness and poverty, if your finances suddenly take a tumble and your partner heads for the door, that is greed personified. Love is about commitment, no matter what. It is a stick-to-itiveness that says “I will be there – always, you can count on me.” Love that is real, is committed to go the distance.

 

Counterfeit ‘love’ says “I will stay as long as I benefit from staying, when the benefits stop, get your camera ready to picture the trail of dust I leave in my wake.” If counterfeit loves returns when your sickness has passed, when your finances have improved, or even when you have decided once again to put your own dreams on hold for the other ‘partner’ it is not a blessing it is a curse in the guise of a blessing. True love perseveres. True love encourages. True love does not say “I will love you when you meet my unreasonable list of demands.” In fact true love says “I love you just as you are you are enough. Together we can conquer everything.”

 

True love sees you with all your skills, your life qualities, your uniqueness, your giftedness, the blessing you truly are, and true love says “I am honoured to know you, let’s both make a difference in the world, by loving and encouraging, by sharing what we know. Let’s accept and appreciate the gift of the other and move forward towards common goals.”

 

Counterfeit ‘love’ believes the lies of the world that money, power, status bring happiness. Look at those who have those possessions and show me where you see the joy and happiness manifested in their lives. If you show me those who have much in the form of financial blessings who experience joy it will be those who give of themselves and their riches to enrich the lives of those less fortunate.

 

It will be the people who are known as philanthropists who share their blessings, both financial and spiritual to make a difference in the world. Whose legacy is not going to be “$12 million dollars left to my dog Spot” it will be “Everything came from the earth I give it back to the earth, build that community centre, find a cure for that disease, feed those hungry people, immunize those at risk children, talk peace to those war mongers, build a church to have prayers said for those who walked alone, lived alone and died alone, lest we forget” – forget what?

 

Lest we forget that others died so that we have freedom. Freedom to squander time and talents and money or freedom to give of ourselves as those who died that we may live freely gave of themselves completely and totally by the sacrifice of their very lives.

 

Love is not in the mind. Nor even in the heart. Love is in the spirit. The human spirit and the Spirit of Almighty God are intertwined. The two parties in love become enjoined with the Spirit of love and counterfeit love is quickly exposed as lacking.

 

Are you loved truly? Or are you loved conditionally? Remember conditional love is not love it is counterfeit because the person you are involved with is incapable of anything other than selfishness masquerading as selflessness.

 

If you are in a relationship with someone who encourages you and appreciates you and urges you to follow your dreams of making the world a better place, (no matter if that affects your joint financial income by reducing it), but simply because they know that will bring about your happiness and fulfillment, you are indeed blessed.

 

Counterfeit means that something looks like the real thing. Appears to be genuine. Has fooled many people. Almost an exact copy. Yet something is not quite right. Why would you who are so wonderful accept something that is fake when you deserve the real thing? You are worthy of being loved, appreciated and blessed beyond measure. You are a diamond and you will shine and bless many others with your light. Let go of what is holding you back and move forward into the light.

 

The crumbs of affection you have been accepting are stale and old and need to be swept away. There is an entire banquet of beautiful delicacies awaiting your palate, but you have to close the door where the crumbs are to move forward into the palace where you will be served on a platter that is covered with jewels the feast that will enable you to feed others.

 

You are worthy of true love. Please do not continue to settle for anything less.